Engaging Opportunities: The ABC’s of Engagement Parties

So, you’re engaged to be married, let’s the festivities begin. Engagement parties are a “traditionally” fun way to break and share the exciting news with friends and family, while at the same time acquiring some nifty gifty’s for “The Big Day” and life as a married woman.

Although most girls have traditionally opted for an engagement party, having one is a completely personal decision. And, there are no steadfast rules or regulations to abide by. This is truly a celebration of LOVE in its purest form.

These festive fetes have traditionally been hosted by the bride-to-be’s parents….and generally held in their home. Contemporary couples however are only bound by their finances and imaginations. The party may be hosted by any close friend or family member, can be held anywhere, and may be as “extreme” as the couple.

Some couples even have more than one soiree: one formal, at mom’s house or a catering facility, and one casual and “spontaneous” for friends, colleagues, etc.

Deciding on whether or not to have one, and what kind of party it should be is all about knowing yourself, and knowing your options.

The Pros and Cons of Pre-Marital Celebrations:

Pros:

· Engagement parties are a fun way to share your good news with friends and family.

· They’re an ideal venue for introducing relatives and friends in a non-threatening fun environment.

· It give YOU an opportunity to get together with “distant” friends and family

· Any joyous occasion is a cause celebra.

Cons:

· There are additional costs involved.

· Hosting a “formal” engagement celebration means having to compile your wedding guest list early and ahead of time. It also means giving thorough consideration to whom you do and do not want to invite at your wedding. There should be no “crossovers”.

· If your wedding is taking place within the next six months, hosting another formal event (remember, there’s also likely to be a shower and bachelorette party) so close to your nuptials may be a bit cumbersome for you and your (intended) guests.

By Invitation Only: Whom should you invite?

Guests should include parents (and partners) of the bride and groom, as well as close relatives, friends and co-workers. Out of town guests (except for parents of the bride and groom) may not be invited, though out of courtesy, especially if you anticipate inviting them to your wedding, should be send and invitation. Make sure NOT to invite anyone you wouldn’t want to invite or have attend your wedding.

To Have and To Hold: When you should host your engagement party

Generally speaking, engagement parties are/should be held up to six months after the official proposal. For those with extended lengthy engagements, you can either celebrate between one and three months after the proposal or up to a year before the wedding.

Partying Gifts: What if anything should you expect:

Surprise, surprise! According to etiquette, gifts are NOT mandatory. Fret not, most guests however will be inclined to offer a token of their well-wishes and blessings for this auspicious occasion, and many will even contact close family and friends to find out your likes, wants and needs. It’s recommended that your register early and give guests a head start at chipping away at your registry. Because this is NOT a shower or the type of party that’s focused on gifts, acknowledge the generosity of those who brought a special offering, place it aside and open once the party is done…and remember to send personalized thank you notes to each.

Type Casting: Choosing the celebration style that best suits you:

The type of even you choose to host is dependent on a variety of variables. From budget to personality and preference, your engagement party can be as formal and fancy or as informal, fun and laid back as you want and envision it to be. While cocktail parties with passed hors d'oeuvres and some subtle entertainment are timeless and traditional, here are some other ideas for you to entertain:

1. Make it a “historical” event: Consider hosting your special event/announcement at the place where your and your significant other first met or where you got engaged. How about using something “intimate” from your past as the party theme. Was she known as a “wild child”…maybe you can ask your local zoo if they offer facilities to host your party in. Maybe you were “bowled” over when you first met. Consider having your party at the local bowling alley, or do a Midnight bowl for added twist.

2. Head for the outback…or at least head out back: If home is where the heart is, then a good ole’ fashioned backyard cookout should provide an outpouring of love and fun. Decorate the trees, and tables…and, f he’s the apple of your eye, don’t forget the homemade apple pie.

3. Pool Your Resources: Instead of a traditional backyard bbq, how about hosting a
Party. That’s one sure way to ensure a wet and wild time.

4. Take a Step Back: From a 50’s sock hop replete with jukebox to a sixties “love” fest encouraging guests to get their groove on, a trip back in time offers fun for everyone.

5. Dare To Be Cheesy: Offer guests some casual sophistication with a classic wine and cheese party. Serve a variety of cheeses with their complimentary wines: Brie with cabernet and Beaujolais, Stilton with port, and Gouda with Riesling and champagne. And, if you’re more partial t champagne, consider an array of bold and sharp cheeses and appetizers (prosciutto wrapped apples or asparagus, etc) as the accompanying accoutrements.

6. Give Them Their Just Desserts: Sweeten your guests up with a dessert and pastry party. Besides exotic coffees and teas, consider also serving a bit of the bubble and offer a variety of dessert wines including: White Riesling, port, merlot and cabernet.

Engaging Opportunities: The ABC’s of Engagement Parties